In a Nutshell

• Offer empathy as a first response, then wait.
• Live an empathetic life.
• Wear your baby, hold your baby.
• Nurse. And nurse. A long time. 
• Sleep together, or near one another.
• Avoid praise.
• Abandon punishment.
• When in doubt say nothing except "Hmmm..." for at least a minute.
• Never say a word about a child's appearance. Or dirty face.
• Before fixing a problem with suggestions hear the feelings first.
• Watch what your mind is saying about your child, question wether or not this is a helpful perspective, or not.
• Tell the truth. 
• Provide enormous amounts of information about how our culture works, the physics of the material world, and everything else under the sun.
• Avoid the word Mine. 
• Be confident in loving your child with empathy.
• You can't actually make a kid do anything.
• You are stronger and more powerful than you think.
• Put blind obedience on the back burner.
• Say what you want your kids to say. Please.
• Make no hard and fast rules.
• Parent with empathy from the very beginning.
• Make your home emotionally safe.
• Embrace the insanity of living with young people.
• Appreciate your partner.
• Know that you are not alone.
• I will support you.