"We were at a friend's yesterday and Bailey was totally into this yellow chair and pink necklace. Awesome, no big deal. Until another kid sits in the chair. Or we are leaving and the necklace is staying. It brings out this sad, aggressive behavior in her. All of the sudden she pushes or screams, cries. I can see she is seriously upset about the thought of sharing or parting with these new prizes but at the same time it is her pal's stuff and other people's cool stuff is everywhere. I try to chill out and not personalize it and chat with her, come up with solutions together, explain that it is Simon's chair and that we are playing with it and it seems like other kids want to play with it too, ask what she needs...sometimes this works but often she is still just bummed and I feel helpless...As with all of the millions of situations like this, sometimes her sweet friend will give it back and sometimes she finds interest elsewhere but I don't feel like that deals with it, you know? It's when it isn't given back and when another interest doesn't happen that I feel stuck. How do I help her move through it and feel good and validated and understanding and understood?"